Are there emotional strategies that prepare the ground for the behavioral strategies men and women pursue in combining work and family life?1 If so, what are they? What are the emotional consequences of each? To find out, I interviewed fifty married couples, in which both partners worked at full­time jobs and also cared for children under the age of six. I talked with their babysitters and also observed in the homes of ten families. At least one spouse in each couple worked at a large multinational company in the San Francisco Bay Area.