Whether it is necessary to fight against childrens greed? Parental fears
Met somehow on video Internet in which the baby touchingly said that she is a greedy person. The charming child on all arrangements that she not so such, and opposite, good, persistently went on the: «I am a greedy person». Sounded ridiculously. Whether there was it performance – difficult to tell. It not seemed to me.
The main thing – not in it, and that the little girl proved the correct position, having disproved my fixed idea that children should share, and to be greedy it it is bad. I was not right. The modern psychology confirms absolutely the return: children’s greed is rather even well.
Two years – surprising time for the child: it was lucky those parents who in vanity of vanities nevertheless could catch the moments of formation of the small person. Certainly, emergence of the first signals own "I" did not pass by also. Wash, washing, mine – I think that many fathers and mothers met such statements. «I» am, perhaps, the most sure sign of the beginning of children’s independence.
After two years the kid starts to speak about itself not in the third party, and personally from itself: whether it be feeding, clothing or games. Process of formation of the personality is inevitably accompanied by "scandals" for the territory to which it is possible to carry everything that concerns the owner of these things: clothes, toys, ware, books.
Often aggressive reaction to any encroachment to its small world causes sense of shame in adults. «The child literally changes in the face of, earlier itself gave the». Further events are familiar to all who, as well as I, carried out educational process, trying to explain to the child: as it is bad – to be the egoist.
What to hide, affirming as the correctness, many proceed from adult level of consciousness. What error! It is unreal in one and a half-two years to understand that such nobility, generosity and benevolence. That at adults is considered greed, for ours крохотули – personality manifestation. When suggest to give another its subjects, small perceives such steps as the tragedy of universal scale.
And no wonder – it is enough to present on a place of children of their parents. From them it will be pleasant to whom, when the stranger will use a brand new tablet or will ask to put on for the evening family jewelry? Besides, it is necessary also to believe that it will be only for a while – «will play and will give». For small its favourite toy – a great value, than for the father – new gadgets, and for mother – a ring with a brilliant.
As psychologists consider, the senior generation calls protection of personal interests and establishment of necessary borders «greed and egoism», disregarding that it is dangerous emergence further an inferiority complex. No, of course, it can and be forced, as speak, «breaking through a knee», to share with others, but at heart the kid will be against.
Besides, it also is fraught with impossibility at the right time to tell the word "no" when it will mature. According to experts that there were no excesses, to the father or mother, grandmothers and grandfathers it is necessary to be during such period on the party of the child. It is recommended not to take that is expensive to it on walk and than he is not ready to endow still not to provoke the conflicts.
Or and to tell to juvenile "posyagatel" that «it is his machine and while he is not ready to give it». And the son or the daughter need to explain such concept, as "stranger", "another’s" that also did not take without demand.
It is not necessary to be afraid that children will get stuck in a stage of children’s "greed" for a long time. Become more senior, and there will come time when it will be more interesting to them to play joint games. Then will come desire to share to remain in the company of children, instead of to stand aside.