Killing him softly
These coping mechanisms – or defense mechanisms – kill men a lot more softly than in the past. Fewer men die in coal mines, more die inside when a lifetime of doing everything he could to support a family leads to his income becoming an incentive for his wife to leave him When he sees his children walk out the door and be turned against him, his spirit bums out as quickly as the Marne of brandy on a cherries jubilee.
When the demands to perform outpace the resources to perform, men become the disposable sex:
The disposable sex
No group of men is more a victim of the demands to perform without the resources to perform than the black boy and his dad.