These coping mechanisms – or defense mechanisms – kill men a lot more softly than in the past. Fewer men die in coal mines, more die inside when a lifetime of doing everything he could to support a family leads to his income becoming an incentive for his wife to leave him When he sees his children walk out the door and be turned against him, his spirit bums out as quickly as the Marne of brandy on a cherries jubilee.

When the demands to perform outpace the resources to perform, men become the disposable sex:

The disposable sex

Men

Women

Percentage of men

Homeless2"’

165.000-231.000

32.000-45,000

83

Deaths from AIDS2*

69.929

7,421

90

Names on Vietnam veterans memorial in Washington, D. G29

58.183

8

9999

Americans still missing in action in southeast Asia**

2,267

0

100

People in prison

758.294

46.230

94

No group of men is more a victim of the demands to perform without the resources to perform than the black boy and his dad.