When boys and girls are young (1 to 4), boys die only slightly more frequently than girls. Once adult sex roles are experienced – between ages 15 and 24 – men die at a rate more than three times that of women.21 The male role, then, might be thought of as being about three times as life depleting for men as is the female role for women.22 We discussed above how the need of boys to perform, pay, and pursue to be equal to girls’ love led boys to anxiety that sometimes resulted in suicide. It also leads to a series of coping mechanisms that prepare boys to die more quietly even as they are succeeding more overtly. Two examples: