__ 1. Unexplained absences and unaccounted time

__ 2. Possessing porn materials or visiting porn sites on the Inter­net

__ 3. Excessive or late night computer use

__ 4. Demanding privacy when using the television or computer

__ 5. Change in bedtime rituals

__ 6. Social and emotional withdrawal

__ 7. Maintaining a private e-mail address, private credit card, or

private cell phone account

__ 8. Vague and nonsensical explanations for behavior

__ 9. Defensiveness when questioned about porn use

__ 10. Evidence of hiding, lying, and secretive behavior

__ 11. Unexplained tiredness, anger, and/or irritability

__ 12. Increased concerns regarding sexual attractiveness and per­formance

__ 13. Decrease in affection and nonsexual touching

__ 14. Insensitive sexual comments and unusual sexual language

__ 15. Loss of emotional closeness in the relationship

__ 16. Lack of sexual interest and sexual functioning problems

__ 17. Heightened need for sexual stimulation, contact, and re­lease

__ 18. Strong interest in unusual or objectionable sexual practices

This list can help a woman evaluate whether the problems she is experiencing in her relationship may be due to her partner’s porn use. However, it’s important to keep in mind that many of these items can also be related to other types of personal problems and secretive or ad­dictive behavior.